I have been contemplating writing this blog all day. I wasn’t sure how to start, let alone how I could word this. But earlier today while on WordPress I stumbled upon a blog under the tag Domestic Violence; I must admit the title of this blog caught my attention (as they are supposed to) but what I found actually pissed me off.
Below is the QUOTED sentence I copied and pasted to share with my readers.
“Footnote- At times, I dated victims of domestic violence..this is a terrible thing to say…but if you don’t hit them, they don’t respect you.”
FIRST OFF, you do not date a victim of domestic violence, you date a survivor (unless by chance you happen to be his/her abuser) SECONDLY, the fact that one would even think this way is disturbing all in itself. Let me educate real quick! A SURVIVOR of domestic abuse finds it incredibly hard to TRUST let alone respect ANY human being after all that he or she has been through. Since the fact that the one person who he or she trusted and loved the most destroyed them, and possibly tried to kill them. It takes time to heal, for some even years; because in order for someone to respect another individual, they have to respect themselves again.
And one more thing, domestic violence is not only PHYSICAL abuse, I wish people would educate themselves more. I mean damn, you have access to google, so do some research! Domestic violence is much more than a punch to the face! In fact if there is physical abuse most abusers will make sure not to leave visible marks. Ever heard of emotional/ mental abuse? If not, you can look at my previous blogs where I posted detailed information on it!
= From one pissed off survivor
*To my readers and followers: What do you think of this sentence? To those who are survivors; how does it make you feel? Comment below and share your thoughts.